Ray Taaffe
Ray Taaffe

The Descent;

My most intimate, supported, and profoundly life-altering experience to serve your full becoming.

A ceremonial and feminine approach, for the modern woman to live a more embodied, joy filled life.

There’s a part of you that knows…

That you don’t want to do another decade of therapy, another expensive but not guaranteed “new modality" or be able to speak the language of healing, while still feeling trapped in your old patterns or default protective strategies.

There is a part of you that knows you want a sacred, supported container that’s both anchored in structure and alive with energy. Where you can relax and trust the process, while also leaning into the magic and unknown.


You want someone who will walk alongside you for an entire year, with eyes on your blind spots, your life, your edges, your deepest desires, your potential… not on a group’s.


You also know that the transformation you’re calling in requires both precision and presence, a strategy and the freedom to follow where your becoming leads you.

This is that journey.

The Descent is a private, 12-month immersion into your deepest reclamation; rooted in the SELM framework, yet entirely tailored to you, weaving in the exact tools, teachings, and ceremonies that will change your life from the inside out.

No shared schedule. No group container. Just you, me, and a full year of high-caliber, sacred, and strategic guidance, crafted entirely around your life, your desires, and your rhythm. We’ll follow the SELM methodology and arc in a way that gently carries you on your journey, while allowing full customization and for me to meet you exactly where you are.

 
 

The heartbeat of This Descent is to guide you back to your body’s knowing.
To dissolve the perfectionism, protection, and pressure you’ve carried for years.
To open you to a life that feels less like holding it all together and more like being held by something greater.

This work is a sacred walk through your deepest somatic healing, your greatest sensual reclamation, and your cultivation of a more holistic, attuned and ceremonial way to walk through your life.

In this private experience, the proven SELM curriculum gives us our anchor, while your life becomes the map. We’ll follow the phases, but the pace, depth, integration and nuance will be entirely yours.

Private Immersion Vs Group:

In this 12-month journey, you have:

  • My full personal attention, without sharing the space with other women.

  • The SELM curriculum as our anchor, but adapted to your pace, focus, and season.

  • Direct access to my network of trusted healers, bodyworkers, supporters, and ceremonial leaders. Introductions I reserve only for my private clients.

  • In-person work woven into your year (private ceremonies, immersions, weekend sessions, or retreats timed to your needs).

  • Space for spontaneous, intuitive sessions when breakthroughs or challenges arise.

  • A private channel to me between sessions, so you’re never left “holding” something alone.

  • The option to join in any of the SELM cohort in person ceremonies and experiences for a dose of connection and sisterhood with other women walking a similar path.

SELM

The Sensually Embodied Living Method

We will go everywhere the group container goes, and further

 
 

Embodiment, your way:
We’ll map your unique nervous system, dismantle the patterns that keep you bracing, and teach you to meet life without shrinking or over-efforting.

The Intimacy Codes:
You’ll learn my signature fusion of nervous system work, energy attunement, and somatic leadership practiced directly in the spaces and relationships that matter most to you.

Think boundaries without rigidity. Power without overpowering. Attunement without hyper vigilance. Intuition without feeling responsible for everyone else. Connection without the depletion.

Somatics, like never before:

We’re not wasting time going over box breathing or ORIENTING YOURSELF to a room when anxious. You’ll finally shift from knowing all the INFORMATION and having the right verbiage, to actually breaking some of the most stubborn PATTERNS that keep you in a lived reality you AREN'T satisfied WITH.

Think; finally ending the procrastination. Releasing the worry that you’re always in trouble or that someone is leaving. Ending the cycles of dissociation or numbing out. Staying grounded instead of snapping at your loved ones. Closing the doors to the negative self talk and hyper critical inner voice.

We go where information alone can’t go, and where the body shows us the way.

Sacred Sensuality & Sexuality:
In the privacy of a 1:1 container, we’ll explore your sensual and erotic self without the filter of a group space. You’ll use your sexual energy as a healing and creation portal, integrating it into your intimacy, your relationship with self, your leadership, and daily life. We will dismantle any shame or PHYSICAL pain that’s stored in your body and free it up for you to EXPERIENCE MORE self trust and pleasure.

 
 

Ceremony & Ritual:
You’ll experience ceremony that is not just profound, but personal; crafted for your season of life, your healing arc, and your spiritual path. You learn to become your own medicine woman, while being held by another deeply attuned, unafraid of your depth, here for your liberation - MEDICINE woman.

 
 
 

Our Journey Together:

We’ll spend a full year together.

You will have full access to the SELM curriculum, and we’ll move through that together as an anchor.

You will also have live private sessions with me every other week as well as daily messaging support as needed.

We will meet in person twice at minimum. Once for in person sessions and integration, and another for your private plant medicine experience.

While the curriculum of SELM will hold us afloat, we’ll explore all of the deeper waters of your life your pain, your longing, your own innate wisdom and the becoming of this next version of you.

 
“You were never meant to just hold it all together. You were meant to feel held, too”
 
 
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Who

this is for

 

This is for the woman who:

  • Wants the deepest level of access to me and my work.

  • Values both structure and freedom, the security of a proven framework, with the flexibility to follow where her growth takes her.

  • Is ready to integrate this work into every layer of her life from her intimacy to her leadership to her self to her pleasure.

  • Understands that this is not just mentorship it’s a full recalibration of her life, her body, her relationships, and her way of being.

This is for the woman who is done skimming the surface of her own life.

The woman who has already built something beautiful on paper. The career, the home, the circle, the life she’s tried to keep up with.


But deep down, she knows there’s a richer, more alive way to be here.

The Descent was crafted with you at the center of it.

When you crave a space that can hold all of you. Your fire and your pain, your brilliance and your shadows, your sensuality and your shame, without needing you to perform a single moment of it, thats when you are ready to descend deeper.

If you want a guide who can meet you in the grit and the glory, who can see your blind spots and your brilliance with equal clarity, if you want someone who can move with you through the inevitable seasons: the cracking open, the unshakable breakthroughs, the quiet integration…

The Descent is for you.

You desire structure, not to contain you, but to support you. You long for the kind of framework that feels like a spine… while still leaving you free to dance, explore, and respond to the mystery.

You’re ready for work that doesn’t just check the box of “personal growth,” but rewrites the entire way you live in your body, your relationships, your leadership, your pleasure.

You want to be held, so you don’t have to do all of the holding forever.

You want to be held deeply, privately, luxuriously, by someone who knows exactly how to walk you into her own becoming, without rushing you, without dimming you, without losing you in the noise and the tides.

If you are this woman, you know it.
You can feel it in your body even as you read these words.

This is the the moment you dive beneath the pretty surface, into the deeper, richer waters of your life. This is where the currents change and you become the actual you, not the performed you.

 

For the woman who doesn’t just need more information,

She needs Integration. Embodiment. Descent. Reclamation.

 
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a little bit about

ray

I have been on my spiritual and healing path for over 15 years.

At 17 I was on enough anti anxiety medications for an overweight 50 year old man. When the doctors only suggestions were to continue upping the dose or keep changing the medication… I took my healing into my own hands. I had NO idea where that journey was going to lead me. 

After a few years I got off of ALL of my medication naturally, healed the massive destruction it did to my physical body and learned natural and authentic ways to heal what was creating the anxiety and dis-ease in my body in the first place. 

Along with deeply learning about the nervous system, familial trauma, cognitive and somatic therapies, attachment work etc (the list goes on)  this part of my  journey also opened me up to the more mystical, spiritual truths of life.  

I worked with mentors, healers and medicine women, I sat in many spiritual circles and ceremonies, and I put myself in every situation that I could to learn more deeply and sharpen my sword. 

While I am trained in NLP, 3x’s breath work certified and certified in both Embody Lab’s Integrative Somatic Trauma Therapy and their Psychedelic Assisted Therapy… I believe my real zone of genius and proficiency comes from my own lived experience and the many years I have been gifted of serving women in a multitude of ways. 

I’ve worked with countless coaches, healers and mentors, and I’ve seen it all in this industry. One thing that I guarantee in all of my containers, is direct, tangible and applicable tools & teachings.  No fluff.  No far out concepts that can’t be applied to your daily life. 

In the creation of the Embodied Living Co it was my mission to provide women with something more ceremonial and intimate than therapy, AND more tangible and understandable than many of the spiritual teachings out there. 

It is my mission to serve, love and support women of all ages and all walks of life.  

This work is my life’s work and I can’t wait to weave with you and teach you everything I know about embodiment, ceremonial living and creating a safe, stable feminine life experience. 

WE HEAL DEEP

When success stops feeling like enough, and something deeper starts calling. This is your descent into the body, the soul, and the truth beneath it all.

words from

selm students

maddy m.

“SELM is the most important and beautiful self improvement work. Life-changing and grounding. Before SELM I was in a place of confusion, numbness, and not knowing my worth. Now, half way through, I’m in a place of finding clarity, regaining strong and deep feelings, and knowing my worth more than ever.”

vandita a.

“Before SELM I was so lost but had convinced myself I was doing the “work” while actually just numbing constantly and disappearing from my life. The most impactful times were the hardest: physical and emotional abuse, sex trauma, feeling unworthy & not enough, jealousy and insecurity, and confusion over who I am and my path. But the absolute best thing that happened was the day we connected to my inner child. The little one who I’d abandoned so many years ago for being “bad.” When you encouraged me to love her instead of trying to fix her, that changed the whole game for me. The amount of self love, self nurturing, and self compassion I have now during the hardest moments (like sitting down with your sister/friend/coach and laying it all out there in it’s messy sticky realness) has been such a fucking life changer. The intimacy codes are life changing and help people connect to the capital M Me that lives inside of me. The unconditional support & nonjudgmental container that Ray provides. It’s one of the best decisions I’ve ever made in my life.”

stephanie l.

“I would absolutely recommend SELM and one thing that I thought about is ‘wow I wish I would’ve done this first I wish that I could have skipped all of the other things that I’ve tried and just started with this and then built from this foundation how beautiful will that be.’ Although I do appreciate my journey to get here and I don’t want to take anything away from that. But dang I wish I could have been feeling this good a long time ago.”

kate m.

“I tend to not really “love a lot of emotions.” But learning to pay attention to where I feel something and recognizing where they exist is interesting and really helpful. I’m really learning how to process emotions physically & finding ways to build back into my life, the things that make me happy.”

more words from

selm students

stephanie ship

“My intuition is definitely stronger and funnily enough my social anxiety has gone way down, which was an outcome I wasn’t expecting. I trust myself more and my decisions, and I’m listening to my body more - so that had naturally led to less anxiety when I’m interacting with others. I feel like I really do HAVE MYSELF.”

allison h.

“Having yourself means not being afraid of the depth of the unknown. Ray addresses misconceptions about pleasure and sensuality head-on, and naturally that means we are facing a time of ‘ok if I;ve thought this forever or I was conditioned this way up until now, now what?’ New identity is scary, but we cannot learn and become without experiencing, witnessing, deep visioning and self care. A snippet I wrote down from Ray is “a little bit of sttention with a little bit of intention goes a long way.” I feel like I;m on the cusp of this program truly redefining what I know are my rights as a woman - untangling societal expectations and trying to undo shame.”

breeanna l.

“Your light in this earth is pure gold. I’m so grateful for you shining so bright. This came through as I fell asleep last night. About you: You are teaching us how safe it gets to be to show up on earth as an embodied goddess.”

stephanie l.

“Ray is powerful, organized, a natural leader and fiercely kind. Before this work I didn’t feel comfortable with my own truth. I always felt I needed to please other over myself. It was built in inner dialogue…that I didn’t have the right to choose me. Fast forward to now, it has been such a huge shift in the way I speak to myself and how I manage that shadow. The spirit of this group is so powerful. Having a pack of wild women who share your truth, and who you get to share their experience with…is something I will cherish for the rest of my life. I saw myself in these women and they saw me too. Such a sisterhood. Ray is a vibrant rainbow of energy!”

 
 
 
 
 

If you feel the current…

 
 

This is your moment to step in.

A full year together, held in a space built for real transformation. We’ll move through the proven arc of my methodology, but with the depth, intimacy, and flexibility only private mentorship can hold.

By the end of this year, you’ll trust yourself in a way that is unshakable. You’ll know how to meet any season, expansion, challenge or transition without abandoning yourself. You’ll walk through life grounded in your body, clear in your mind, and deeply at home in who you are. Your pleasure will no longer feel like something to earn or stumble into, but the steady hum of a life where your body has become the ultimate sanctuary.

If you’re ready to stop circling the edge and actually live in the deep end, to live the life you’ve been working toward all these years, this is your invitation to bet on yourself like never before to cultivate a lived experience like never before.

It’s far warmer in the deep end.

Your life is waiting to be lived, not strategized, Your magic is waiting to be felt, not performed.